My concern is that while you have been building the arsenal, I am not sure if you have considered the point when you want to cross the line in to being the enemy. The point when you pack the bags and leave without looking back. The lawyers (or the therapists) to help you get what is rightfully (or legally) yours.

The entire point of building an arsenal is not to talk about it. It is about getting your point across. It could be a lawyer's letter, an embarrassing public disclosure (not a good idea). That the ex-wife (or soon to be) is not a person to cross.

You also need cold blooded or at least people who are not emotional to advise on this matter.